Welcome to the homepage of Anneli Rufus. This page is about my book Party of One: the Loners’ Manifesto. Here we are, having this rendezvous without having . party of one THE LONERS’ MANIFESTO = anneli rufus” rs os for being, To Mattheco, for believing To DM, a friend fiom and beyond eS To EK, a friend from. Yet in the press, in films, in folklore, and nearly everywhere one looks, In Party of One Anneli Rufus – a Prize-winning, critically acclaimed.

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That my disinclination to spend all of my free time with others may not be the norm, but that it’s no less valid and that I’m certainly in good company. On the other side of the coin, we introverts are all apparently quirky, artistic geniuses.

Despite the flaws, it was a well-written book, and wasn’t too dragging like non-fiction can often be. And this, on artists, is compelling: Each week, our editors select the one author and one book they believe to be most worthy of your attention and highlight them in our Pro Connect email alert.

Interesting premise, but ultimately annoying.

Anneli Rufus, Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto

No two loners are alike, but all of us have one thing in common: And I wouldn’t have that American ideal to fall back on when my natural state was hedged by the notion of community-above-all.

People sometimes ask if it was hard, and I reply “I don’t think so. In reading about her life, and the lives of people like her, I felt comforted, realizing that I really am OK. Society consists of individuals moving as one. When telling another friend about fo book, she revealed that she is a loner as well, and just got into a relationship with loner. At which point its reality directly contradicts its image — yet the image persists.


Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto

This book covers that, and for that insight alone I thought this was a worthwhile read. I loved the way Anneli showed how society has changed the loner from a revered pioneer, cowboy, or Batman hero figure to the loner who shoots up work places or schools. True loners have close friends and Although I am pretty sure people who know me would not peg me as a loner, this books so perfectly describes me in every sense that is has now become one of my favorite books of all time.

Pesudoloners do not do well in isolation–it feeds their crazy. Here we are, having this rendezvous without having to see each other, without having to be in the same place at the same time, without having to talk or check each other out or wear decent clothes. This book made me weary and irritable, and want to be alone forever.

Onee aspect of lonerism is covered, rufua the whole Anchorism chapter was totally new to me. Joiners, schmoozers, teamworkers, congregants and all those who play well with others scoop up the rewards. RO-DBT is based on the premise that psychological well-being involves the confluence of three factors: Now we a For a self-proclaimed loner, Anneli Rufus seems to care an awful lot about what other people seem to think of herself and her fellow loners.

Mar 15, elizabeth rated it liked it Shelves: They’re bored and don’t know what to do. Reporters and profilers calmly and constantly call us perverts, losers, stalkers and serial killers.

This is why this website is so wonderful. Too often, loners buy into those messages and strive to change, making themselves miserable in the process by annepi their true nature–and hiding from it. Social outcasts and loners, as she eloquently points out, are not the same thing at all.

Perhaps this was a way of dealing with a life wherein my group of friends was constantly shifting, where I wasn’t sure if I would ever see any of my childhood friends again in my lifetime and I haven’t seen most of them.


Loners, all–along with as many as 25 percent of the world’s population. The real problem is not that kids don’t play outdoors, but that they do not play with other kids.

Party of One: The Loners’ Manifesto by Anneli Rufus

Not that all geeks are loners far from itbut there is, Onne suspect, a much higher proportion of people who identify as “geeks” who are loners. To ask other readers questions about Party of Oneplease sign up.

She bristles rightly when discussing how, when discovered to have uncomfortable mannerisms or to have done something terrible, one is branding a loner as a means of isolating that person from “the rest of us. No trivia or quizzes yet. However, much of what she discusses for loners is relevant for introverts as we self-identify now. Pseudoloners are outcasts because people can’t stand them.

PARTY OF ONE by Anneli Rufus | Kirkus Reviews

Our Authors See all Authors. But I also wrote it to show the ways in which loners have not just survived but actually changed the world, not just saved civilization but had a lot to do with creating it.

And this hyperbole, along with anenli assignation of ill-intent to those who don’t understand loners, gets really tedious throughout. I don’t want to be too harsh on the author, because I really do appreciate where she’s coming from. Feb 18, Alison Livingston rated it it was amazing. Sure, I’ve met some of the type the book talks about: